Communicating With Your Teenager

Communicating with your teenager is an important part of being a parent and of retaining a good relationship with your child. Unfortunately, during the teenage years communication can often be a one way process; don't lose heart just remain open to the times when your teenager needs you to listen.

Getting on with teenagers is hard work. You might think that the hardest part of child rearing is the baby years, and physically you might be right. Emotionally and psychologically the most wearing time for parents are the teenage years. Paradoxically the same individual who craves to be left alone also needs the reassurance that they are loved no matter what. Loving your teenager is one thing but you won't always like them and you have to distinguish between these two emotions if the relationship is not to become confusing to both of you. There are times when parents should communicate their feelings about certain behaviours but you need to pick the right time and place if communication between you and your teenager is to remain open.

Parents and Teens

Parents often wonder what has happened to their willing and obedient children when they reach an age with teen on the end. The child who once had a sunny disposition suddenly becomes very moody - girls especially are prone to what I call the Greta Garbo mode where their constant cry is leave me alone.

Bewildered and befuddled parents often wonder what has caused such a dramatic change in their child and many begin to question their own parenting skills. Stop! You are rarely at fault here and your child is probably just as befuddled as you are; the easiest option for most young teenagers is to take the view that it is their parents' fault or that something is wrong with them. Not so. Teenage moods and hormonal changes are a normal part of growing up and parents who recognize this from the outset can save themselves and their teenage child a lot of future heartache.